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Friendship and sex (pg. 16)
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| Zild |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
Of course not. That's far from being the only choice.
When you befriend someone, do you actually say "Hey, you're nice, I'd like to be your friend" or anything of that sort? Of course not! You just act like a friend!
Likewise, when you meet a girl you fancy, you act like it! This may include a compliment here and there, but the more you make explicit, the more likely it is to turn a woman off. |
And thats why you see stuff like "I just got sexiled, so that my roommate and the girl I've been in love with for four years could hook up." on mylife.com
As far as I've experienced women like honesty, and most of them are very flattered if you walk up and tell them you think they're cool, and they have a pretty smile, so you'd like to call them sometime. If they're not interested most of the time they'll still think you're cool and take it as a compliment. |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by Zild
As far as I've experienced women like honesty, |
Whoa whoa whoa... this is just plain incorrect. Women think they like honesty, what they really like are believable lies or half-truths. For instance... "do these jeans make my ass look fat?"... she wants you to say "no, you're ass looks great," alternatively she'll likely accept "I wouldn't say that but there's something a little odd about the cut, I think you can find a better pair," whereas the honest answer "no honey, your ass looks fat with or without the jeans," is the last thing she wants to hear. |
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| coroknight |
| quote: | Originally posted by Zild
And thats why you see stuff like "I just got sexiled, so that my roommate and the girl I've been in love with for four years could hook up." on mylife.com
As far as I've experienced women like honesty, and most of them are very flattered if you walk up and tell them you think they're cool, and they have a pretty smile, so you'd like to call them sometime. If they're not interested most of the time they'll still think you're cool and take it as a compliment. |
If you act like it's this huge life or death scenario then that's kinda off-putting.
If you are just honest and act like it's no big deal that's a much better approach. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
That's why picking up chicks gets easier after you're married... if you up, big deal - just go home and do your wife. |
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| quote: | Originally posted by Zild
And thats why you see stuff like "I just got sexiled, so that my roommate and the girl I've been in love with for four years could hook up." on mylife.com |
Wait, what?!
| quote: | Originally posted by Zild
As far as I've experienced women like honesty, and most of them are very flattered if you walk up and tell them you think they're cool, and they have a pretty smile, so you'd like to call them sometime. If they're not interested most of the time they'll still think you're cool and take it as a compliment. |
Complimenting her is quite different from talking about your feelings (refer to your post I quoted) ;)
| quote: | Originally posted by coroknight
Being someone's friend and being someone's BF/GF are kinda different. With the BF/GF scenario their is always that turning point where you first start referring to them as your BF/GF. |
Yeah, but, before claiming some sort of boyfriendship over her, you're at least halfway there. You don't become a couple out of nothing.
"Oh, hai!"
"Hey!"
"Be my girlfriend?"
"Why, yes!"
:p |
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| Zild |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
Whoa whoa whoa... this is just plain incorrect. Women think they like honesty, what they really like are believable lies or half-truths. For instance... "do these jeans make my ass look fat?"... she wants you to say "no, you're ass looks great," alternatively she'll likely accept "I wouldn't say that but there's something a little odd about the cut, I think you can find a better pair," whereas the honest answer "no honey, your ass looks fat with or without the jeans," is the last thing she wants to hear. |
that's way different. i was talking about being honest about wanting to them not the rest of the stuff with it total and complete lies...
do i look good... yes
do you like these jeans... yes
does my ass look fat... never your ass is amazing
etc... |
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| Zild |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
:stongue:
Wait, what?!
Complimenting her is quite different from talking about your feelings (refer to your post I quoted) ;)
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Hey as long as you make it clear you are attracted to them ASAP everything is all good. How can you have feelings for someone who you don't know? |
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| Zild |
| quote: | Originally posted by XaNaX
this is exactly what I was talking about, not saying "hi be my girlfriend" you have to use common sense |
Most of the time they say no or 'i have a boyfriend', but most of the time isn't all of the time. |
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| coroknight |
| quote: | Originally posted by XaNaX
this is exactly what I was talking about, not saying "hi be my girlfriend" you have to use common sense |
Talk to them a bit. That way when you ask them out you have a reason other than "you're hot." |
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| Zild |
| quote: | Originally posted by coroknight
Talk to them a bit. That way when you ask them out you have a reason other than "you're hot." |
Why? The last number I got was right after I ed around with some random at a house party. I still haven't 'talked' to her. I've called her a few times to see if she wants to , but she has a kid... I don't like kids.
someone cue the Cake song...
to me, coming from you,
friend is a four letter word.
end is the only part of the word
that I heard.
call me morbid or absurd.
but to me, coming from you,
friend is a four letter word.
when I go fishing for the words
i am wishing you would say to me,
i'm really only praying
that the words you'll soon be saying
might betray the way you feel about me |
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| Moral Hazard |
| quote: | Originally posted by Zild
I still haven't 'talked' to her. I've called her a few times to see if she wants to , but she has a kid... I don't like kids. |
then don't the kid... :conf: |
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| Zild |
| quote: | Originally posted by Moral Hazard
then don't the kid... :conf: |
I want to eat it. Check my sig... |
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| squirrelly |
| Pffft that whole "try to be friends and then lead into dating" thing is crap. That's just being a wimp. My boyfriend and I did NOT try to be friends first. He made his intentions clear when he asked me out 4 times (I said no the first 3) - and then when I finally said yes, we were all hot and bothered by one another and didn't try to hide it. |
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