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The Official TOTA Multicultural Dating Thread (pg. 19)
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| Jem_hadar |
| quote: | Originally posted by fayraree
That responds to your concern, Jems, because I do have different values than your friend, perhaps, because he wants to be happy while I want to make my family happy (as that would ultimately make me happy).
Anyway, /rant gotta finish this stupid deal at work. |
its his gf who is jewish and her mom/parents that want her with a jewish man only. he has no issues w/ the family concern.
i have no idea how his gf feels about her parents' opinion. |
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| UmmiE |
| quote: | Originally posted by ÖZmözis
I like them crazy balkan butcher Croat girls... :P
I was able to meet with afterhrsgurl parents. I offered them 2 goats and half of my land with $2000 dollars and her dad looked at me and said "commmee here sonnn" and gave me a hug... |
LOL ahhahhahaha |
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| ÖZmözis |
| quote: | Originally posted by afterhrsgurl
lol bastard |
Oh quiet you...
You know your happy ;) Which other guy is going to give you an amazing wedding at the Guv and after party at CZ... nada... |
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| exstasie |
| quote: | Originally posted by ÖZmözis
Oh quiet you...
You know your happy ;) Which other guy is going to give you an amazing wedding at the Guv and after party at CZ... nada... |
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On second though....nope! |
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| ÖZmözis |
| quote: | Originally posted by exstasie
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On second though....nope! |
That's alright, your still invited... |
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| yankeeBaby |
| quote: | Originally posted by fayraree
I totally understand you, bro. My Mom is no extremist or anything, but she is a devout, practicing Muslim. I'm way more moderate than her, but because I'm kinda taking care of her now (only son) I really hafta look after her interests.
With my ex, who was shunned by the majority of my group of aunts and uncles, my Mom actually ended up supporting the relationship and gave me permission to get engaged. Without that permission, I never would have pursued it. However, I had to work bloody hard to make that happen and make my Mom see that my ex was a good girl. Other TAs have met her and they loved her, too :(.
But at the end of the day, there were certain important differences that were not compromised or reconciled and that's why I LEARNED on my OWN what's right for me (because what's right for me = what's right for my family; not everyone thinks that way). That responds to your concern, Jems, because I do have different values than your friend, perhaps, because he wants to be happy while I want to make my family happy (as that would ultimately make me happy).
Anyway, /rant gotta finish this stupid deal at work. |
agreed. My man is puerto rican, and I thought my rents would hate them (based on the YEARS of "YOU BETTER MARRY A WHITE GUY!!!"
The Albanian guy from toronto that I dated for a couple years was the WORST. They never gave him a chance...... but HIS famliy straight up HATED me. Wow. I got screaming angry phone calls and everything. Of course, his younger-generation cousins and brothers and such were awesome (and I still see them when I come to toronto), but the older family, I swear put a bounty on my head!!
That was a doomed relationship from the start, but of course, we liked each other so we dealt with is for as long as we could.
^^I guess being so liberal I dont really understand all the hate. I get that people want similar characteristics/values/etc for their grandchildren, etc, but the HATE and anger can be overwhelming!! |
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| EvilTree |
| quote: | Originally posted by ÖZmözis
I like them crazy balkan butcher Croat girls... :P
I was able to meet with afterhrsgurl parents. I offered them 2 goats and half of my land with $2000 dollars and her dad looked at me and said "commmee here sonnn" and gave me a hug... |
You are Mr Awesome for the day |
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| EvilTree |
| quote: | Originally posted by yankeeBaby
^^I guess being so liberal I dont really understand all the hate. I get that people want similar characteristics/values/etc for their grandchildren, etc, but the HATE and anger can be overwhelming!! |
I chalk up as the fear of the 'Other'
Psych majors here? :p |
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| Jem_hadar |
| quote: | Originally posted by yankeeBaby
^^I guess being so liberal I dont really understand all the hate. I get that people want similar characteristics/values/etc for their grandchildren, etc, but the HATE and anger can be overwhelming!! |
Well, me personally, I feel as such: What right do your parents have to try to influence things in your romantic life so that they have similar characteristics/values/etc in their grandchildren!!?
NOT THEIR PLACE! They have no right. If you ask me, it's pretty selfish of them. IMHO. |
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| EvilTree |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jem_hadar
Well, me personally, I feel as such: What right do your parents have to try to influence things in your romantic life so that they have similar characteristics/values/etc in their grandchildren!!?
NOT THEIR PLACE! They have no right. If you ask me, it's pretty selfish of them. IMHO. |
I'd agree with you, if I was looking individual point of view.
But looking at it from social and cultural view from family oriented point of view, it gets a bit more fuzzy to decide.
It makes a big difference when the choices you make may severely affect the family as whole |
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| afterhrsgurl |
| i just read the first 10pgs of this thread and :wtf: |
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