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The Official TOTA Multicultural Dating Thread (pg. 21)
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| Jem_hadar |
| quote: | Originally posted by FunkyCrew
I used to think that I can only date someone who speaks my own language
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So are you talking Russian or English here.
English is still your own language (which you speak fluently). :)
And as long as they spoke one or the other (English or Russian), I'm curious as to your original feelings on the matter, why you think you could only date someone who spoke Russian, even if they could speak English, which you do too?
(hehe I'm assuming my "speaks my own language" you meant to imply he or she would have had to be able to speak russian) |
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| thesauce23 |
i dont know if this is off-topic or not, but my parents told me this when i was 14 and about to enter high school.
"there's right and wrong and you're gonna come across them all your life. the choice is yours. no matter what happens we r gonna be ur parents. whatever you decide is YOUR decision. if u need our help, just come ask. but the choice's you'll make will be YOURS- so only you will be responsible for them. so be careful and live YOUR life"
i think personally that was the best advice they gave me and it was so non-intrusive and just made me more aware of every decision(almost every decision) i make/made. |
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| Jem_hadar |
| quote: | Originally posted by FunkyCrew
I dated: Greek, Cypriot, English, Dutch, German, Romanian, Russian, Moldovian, Latvian, and now a Croat :) |
Jesus, Krist, you havent dated any Canadians eh?
(which would be multicultural I'm assuming based on the flag you've chosen to display under your avatar) :p |
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| The Highroller |
I completely agree with Jamie in this argument. I don't really have much more to add except: When marriage is in the question, I guess I can see why parents would be interested in pressuring their son/daughter into marrying someone from their own culture (although I don't agree with it). However, when their son/daughter is young, and they're still just dating (ie marriage isn't even in the question), I fail to understand the point of that parental pressure. I've been the unfortunate forbidden boyfriend-to-be more than once, and it's extremely frustrating.
Although I would consider my mom to be a devout Christian, she's never had anything to say about the culture of any of my girlfriends. However, both of my parents are extremely vocal and inquisitive on what any of my girlfriends do. Anytime I bring up a girl, the first questions beyond "What's her name?" are, "Does she go to school?", "What program is she in?", "What are her marks like?". This is pretty annoying to me. I'm not interested in marrying anyone anytime soon, so all of those questions are irrelevant, even to me. |
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| FunkyCrew |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jem_hadar
Jesus, Krist, you havent dated any Canadians eh?
(which would be multicultural I'm assuming based on the flag you've chosen to display under your avatar) :p |
ah poop
I did, 2! :)
I was just thinking of boys from back home when I was in school (in Cyprus)
| quote: | Originally posted by Jem_hadar
So are you talking Russian or English here.
English is still your own language (which you speak fluently). :)
And as long as they spoke one or the other (English or Russian), I'm curious as to your original feelings on the matter, why you think you could only date someone who spoke Russian, even if they could speak English, which you do too?
(hehe I'm assuming my "speaks my own language" you meant to imply he or she would have had to be able to speak russian) |
Russian :)
it's my first language, so when I say "my" language, I mean Russian
back when I thought that way, I was a. younger and b. less comfortable with foreigners (that's when I only lived in a foreign country for few years) |
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| EvilTree |
| quote: | Originally posted by The Highroller
However, both of my parents are extremely vocal and inquisitive on what any of my girlfriends do. Anytime I bring up a girl, the first questions beyond "What's her name?" are, "Does she go to school?", "What program is she in?", "What are her marks like?". This is pretty annoying to me. I'm not interested in marrying anyone anytime soon, so all of those questions are irrelevant, even to me. |
Wouldn't you be interested in your son's affairs? (yeah, I understand that those questions would be annoying) |
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| Ania_xox |
| quote: | Originally posted by FunkyCrew
I used to think that I can only date someone who speaks my own language
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I used to think that way too... if the relationship gets serious then it's just so much easier - in my case b/c my parents are total FOBs and because my family across the ocean is SO DEEPLY involved in everything that goes on in my life (it's like Polska Wireless... they know like 2 hours after it happens lol)
Then I dated a Polish guy that my mother hated.
Then I dated a Portuguese guy that my whole family DESPISED.
Now I just do whatever the f*ck I want :toocool:
I'm obsessed with foreign languages and dating someone of a different linguistic background is awesome. |
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| zoogla |
| quote: | Originally posted by Ania_xox
I'm obsessed with foreign languages and dating someone of a different linguistic background is awesome. |
Me too. I was watching the Godfather the other day and just wanted to go to Sicily and immerse myself with the culture there.
I wish life wasn't so f*cking complicated. :(
lol @ the upbeat Fahad that started this thread and the current emo grouchy one!!! :p |
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| loca |
Married my Latino, so my multicultural dating experience went pretty well I'd say :p When we first started going out though, his grandma didn't really approve, think she wanted a latina for her grandson who wouldn't make him do dishes/housework and treat him like the man-god she thinks he is :rolleyes: LOL, add to that the fact that I didn't speak Spanish... she was not impressed!
We got around it though, I learned Spanish and she learned that in this day and age, men will do housework. Unless he married a FOB latina, that would not have happened.
He doesn't like Latinas anyways so no matter what, she would have had to deal with a whitebread like me hahahahaha, and I don't know if every girl would have willingly learned Spanish (or been able to for that matter). |
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| loca |
Forgot to add my .2 cents to the topic...
Fahad, imo, you should do what makes YOU happy. Your elder relatives will pass away at some point and then what are you left with? You married someone to make your parents happy whom you may not have even necessarily loved. When they are gone, who're you going to please?
I always think along the lines of this is -my- life, I'm the one living it, I will damn well do what makes -me- happy. Life is too short to go round trying to please everyone. Now I'm not saying you should date some stripper just because she makes you happy in your "special place" lol but at least find someone you can love and know you will have a happy life with, be it from the same background or not. |
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| Jem_hadar |
| quote: | Originally posted by loca
Married my Latino, so my multicultural dating experience went pretty well I'd say :p When we first started going out though, his grandma didn't really approve, think she wanted a latina for her grandson who wouldn't make him do dishes/housework and treat him like the man-god she thinks he is :rolleyes: LOL, add to that the fact that I didn't speak Spanish... she was not impressed!
We got around it though, I learned Spanish and she learned that in this day and age, men will do housework. Unless he married a FOB latina, that would not have happened.
He doesn't like Latinas anyways so no matter what, she would have had to deal with a whitebread like me hahahahaha, and I don't know if every girl would have willingly learned Spanish (or been able to for that matter). |
you should have just told her you were belgium. and that french is a better language than spanish. end of story. ;) |
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| loca |
| quote: | Originally posted by Jem_hadar
you should have just told her you were belgium. and that french is a better language than spanish. end of story. ;) |
I did. She was still not impressed :( |
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