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BF/GFs who are friends with their exes
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| Slylee |
have u had to deal with it? i am now.
i'm trying to work through it but i'm just generally a possesive/jealous type of girlfriend..HOWEVER, before you start attacking me, let me just tell you that you will never see me make a scene or act ridiculous or even act on my jealous feelings alone. that is because i realize it's my own insecurity and it's just something i have to deal with. i keep it under wraps because i know if you make a scene about jealousy, you might as well stamp "INSECURE" on your forehead and that's not something i want to do.
i told my guy it bothered me and that i would try to work through it. we had a nice calm talk about it, i wasn't like "WTF! BLA BLA BLA HER!"
i usually make a joke out of my jealousy. it's like bringing comic relief helps me deal with it and laugh at myself. i'll say something like, "yea fine we can have dinner but don't make me have to choke a bitch".
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would any of you who are still friendly with your ex have that talk with your new bf/gf and tell them u are friends with them and that you'd like them to meet or you'd like it to be cool if you all hung out? how would u deal with it if they did that to you? |
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| Vivid Boy |
| I tried being a friend with my ex but her new bf said no. but truthfullyi think it was her who couldnt deal with it and was using him as an excuse. em both |
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| Vlad |
| It shouldnt be wierd, and those that do should go fly a kite. |
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| Rose |
I have no problem with them talking to their ex unless they had recently broken up and still kinda sorta had feelings for each other.
Trust is important in a relationship. |
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| Frenchie |
| Yeah, I'm cool with it as long as she's not a psychotic cuntscab. If that's the case...she can have him back. |
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| SuspicionVandit |
| get a bipolar/socialphobic girlfriend. It's worked out well for the past 5 months. |
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| Slylee |
| quote: | Originally posted by Frenchie
Yeah, I'm cool with it as long as she's not a psychotic cuntscab. If that's the case...she can have him back. |
they've been broken up for 8 months and she already has a serious bf and when she was with my guy, they had a really disfunctional relationship. lol
to be perfectly honest, that is what sort of bothers me about it. if it was just one of those, "yea it just didn't work out, she's a really cool chick but we didn't have enough in common" type of thing then i think i might be cool about it...but they sounded like a bunch of freaks when they were together. lots of fighting and stuff. why the do i want to be around that?
also, my guy has made it clear that he sort of likes it that i'm jealous...so i'm a little confused. |
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| Vlad |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
also, my guy has made it clear that he sort of likes it that i'm jealous...so i'm a little confused. |
cause its cute. lol. |
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| idoru |
It all depends on how "friendly" she is with him. Mine's still friends with her first boyfriend, who also took her virginity. They talk once in a while but that's about it, and I really don't have any problem with it. It all depends on the situation between them, really.
| quote: | Originally posted by SuspicionVandit
get a bipolar... girlfriend. |
Speaking from experience, this is a bad idea. |
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| idoru |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
also, my guy has made it clear that he sort of likes it that i'm jealous...so i'm a little confused. |
Perhaps he likes knowing that you like him enough to be that jealous? |
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| Frenchie |
Well you're not around THAT you're around him..and if you're different than her there is no need to worry, right?
A lot of guys secretly, or in your case openly, like when their girlfriend is jealous. Let's them know you actually somewhat care, you know they can have someone else( because you got jealous about another woman somehow) and it keeps you on your toes. |
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