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| Lira |
Is your loved one away? Are you in a new city, or has your significant other gone to a different state... or country, perhaps? Are you feeling lonely, but you're still reluctant to share your homemade sammich with that hot coworker/classmate that has desperately invited you to Subway for lunch so you could share your deepest sammichical secrets? You're not alone. I'm going to be with you soon.
Tomorrow, at 5 PM in Brazilian time (8PM UTC), my fiancée is flying to Nagoya (JP), and will spend at least 3 years there. I really think it's going to be hard to keep this relationship intact for so long, specially because I probably won't go to live in Nagoya even if I do go to Japan in the near future. So, I decided I'm going to do the following 3 things to cope with the distance:
- Do anything but live like a hermit: I'm friends with far more girls than guys, so if I decide to stick with my girl in spite of this new context of blooming hotness and potential epic wins because I don't think they're worth pursuing... that is a sign that this is indeed what I want;
- Keep in touch. This bit is obvious, I guess;
- Keep working on my goals. The busier the mind, the easier it is for the heart.
Any other tips? Have you ever been in a(n un)successful long distance relationship? What was it like?
edit: Ambiguous expression was ambiguous. |
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| UmmiE |
| I do my wife is in Pakistan right now and Im here in Kana Duhh.:( |
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| lücid |
i've done it... short-long distance and long-long distance.
it takes an incredible amount of commitment, as well as open and honest communication. as long as you've got that, you'll be fine.
it can also be a test as to whether or not that person is really the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. i'm assuming she is, considering the fact that you two are now engaged... so i wish you both the best of luck. |
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| CranberryJuice |
| check ur PM marcus |
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| elFreak |
| can't wait for the pics! |
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| StanVoid |
| so 3 years in different countries and most likely you won't see each other a single time during that period? |
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| Lira |
Thanks Mindy :)
| quote: | Originally posted by l�id
i've done it... short-long distance and long-long distance.
it takes an incredible amount of commitment, as well as open and honest communication. as long as you've got that, you'll be fine.
it can also be a test as to whether or not that person is really the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. i'm assuming she is, considering the fact that you two are now engaged... so i wish you both the best of luck. |
That's exactly how we see it. We've been together for almost 5 years now and, although I sometimes vent here about how I'm mad at one thing or another, I think there will always be some "friction" in a relationship, and I've learnt to cope with many of her differences just fine.
In any case, I think it's time to confirm whether I'm right, and, if I'm right, it's all set :D |
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| nchs09 |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
Is your loved one away? Are you in a new city, or has your significant other gone to a different state... or country, perhaps? Are you feeling lonely, but you're still reluctant to share your homemade sammich with that hot coworker/classmate that has desperately invited you to Subway for lunch so you could share your deepest sammichical secrets? You're not alone. I'm going to be with you soon.
Tomorrow, at 5 PM in Brazilian time (8PM UTC), my fiancée is flying to Nagoya (JP), and will spend at least 3 years there. I really think it's going to be hard to keep this relationship intact for so long, specially because I probably won't go to Nagoya even if I do go to Japan in the near future. So, I decided I'm going to do the following 3 things to cope with the distance:
- Do anything but live like a hermit: I'm friends with far more girls than guys, so if I decide to stick with my girl in spite of this new context of blooming hotness and potential epic wins because I don't think they're worth pursuing... that is a sign that this is indeed what I want;
- Keep in touch. This bit is obvious, I guess;
- Keep working on my goals. The busier the mind, the easier it is for the heart.
Any other tips? Have you ever been in a(n un)successful long distance relationship? What was it like? |
You will def. have sex with one of those friends. Guarantee. |
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| Gauss |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
in a(n un)successful |
Haha, I liked the way you used parentheses. :p
Anyway, I think it's not worth it. Three years is just too much. There is a saying "Far away from the eyes, far away from the heart." and I believe in it, especially when so much time is in question. |
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| tubby |
| 3 years away and even if you go to the same country you probably wouldn't bother to visit? how much do you want the relationship to work? |
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| elFreak |
| Lira, i hate to say this, but sorry it is over. |
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| idoru |
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
... short-long distance... |
I guess this could be considered what I'm in right now? She lives 26 miles away and it takes me 30 minutes to get to her place. Though, the distance isn't really that big of a deal since I sleep/"live" at her place four or five days of the week.
*shrug* |
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