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Would you ever have children? (pg. 15)
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| Silky Johnson |
| Yeah but that sort of thing should never be an ongoing enough issue to cause continual pain. If your baby is constantly biting your nipple/there is always pain at breastfeeding, you're not doing it right. |
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| gehzumteufel |
| I don't remember how often it happened. I haven't had a baby around in the family for like 13-14 years. So, while I know it happened, I have no idea the frequency or anything of that sort. I just know it happened. |
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| SuspicionVandit |
| I'd rather much adopt a needy child. |
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| Sunsnail |
| Really? I hear a lot of people say that but it seems like a rare thing for people to do. I couldn't see myself adopting |
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| Banora |
I'd have children
for breakfast. bwahaha. |
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| The17sss |
| quote: | Originally posted by SuspicionVandit
I'd rather much adopt a needy child. |
All children are needy... why not have one with your own genes rather than some creepy outsider when you have little to no knowledge of their genetic and medical family history? man... last thing you want is to end up with one that has the retard gene or a family history of mental illness.... or something crazy. |
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| Arbiter |
| quote: | Originally posted by The17sss
why not have one with your own genes ... last thing you want is to end up with one that has the retard gene or a family history of mental illness.... |
You answered your own question. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by The17sss
All children are needy... why not have one with your own genes rather than some creepy outsider when you have little to no knowledge of their genetic and medical family history? man... last thing you want is to end up with one that has the retard gene or a family history of mental illness.... or something crazy. |
Because an adopted child is already alive - it's already here. It's different than bringing someone else to this world because you're not adding one more needy kid to the context.
As for my genes, we're not that much different to begin with. I don't think there are "outsiders" to begin with, unless you can prove me the child was brought to Earth by sneaky aliens that want to know what a human family is like.
Unlikely as it is (the alien origin, that is), I can't see a reason not to adopt a child. |
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| The17sss |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
Because an adopted child is already alive - it's already here. It's different than bringing someone else to this world because you're not adding one more needy kid to the context.
As for my genes, we're not that much different to begin with. I don't think there are "outsiders" to begin with, unless you can prove me the child was brought to Earth by sneaky aliens that want to know what a human family is like.
Unlikely as it is (the alien origin, that is), I can't see a reason not to adopt a child. |
lol... I didn't mean it like that. I just meant that you may be asking for a world of unintended problems by adopting a "needy" child when you don't know their genetic history like you would your own. It would kinda suck if you got stuck with one that had Autism or something that would keep you in the poor house because you had to spend tons of money on treatments. If that happened with your own child, it's a different story- but I can't help but think I'd be somewhat resentful for getting myself into a situation like that becuase someone convinced me it would be more virtuous to do that than have my own. Now, if my wife and I couldn't have children, and we wanted them, we'd have no choice but to go that route. And while I'm going off on tangents, I might as well say that the fear is always there that I would not love an adpoted child as much as I would my own flesh and blood. |
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| Slylee |
most guys don't like the idea of adopting because they only see one point in having children...to spread their superior genes:rolleyes:
no offense kev but it annoys me when men say that. i have yet to meet/date a guy who is cool with adopting. if i can't have kids, i'm definitely adopting and i've also been friends with a couple of adopted kids who were fine mentally and knew they were adopted and had great adoptive parents. they went off to college and everything. i think you've seen too many movies if you think adopting is going to turn into some kind of damien child story lol
*edit* and it also proves that your love is obviously conditional if you don't feel you are able to love an adopted child as if it were your own. |
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| The17sss |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
most guys don't like the idea of adopting because they only see one point in having children...to spread their superior genes:rolleyes:
no offense kev but it annoys me when men say that. i have yet to meet/date a guy who is cool with adopting. if i can't have kids, i'm definitely adopting and i've also been friends with a couple of adopted kids who were fine mentally and knew they were adopted and had great adoptive parents. they went off to college and everything. i think you've seen too many movies if you think adopting is going to turn into some kind of damien child story lol
*edit* and it also proves that your love is obviously conditional if you don't feel you are able to love an adopted child as if it were your own. |
lol... no, it does not at all prove my love is conditional because it is still only a concept being discussed in the abstract; only if I adopted a child and didn't love it, or had my own child and an adopted one and loved my own child more could something like that be proved. It's a natural feeling, and some girls have it too... it's cool that you don't and I wish I could share the same sentiment, but I just don't. Doesn't make me a shallow person; could be a product of our evolution for all I know. |
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