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I'm in love with a friend and I don't know what to do (pg. 11)
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| Intangible |
| quote: | Originally posted by Yohan
yes! my life would be so much simpler if girls that aren't attracted to me just tell me to off |
And my life would be so much easier if guys would straight out say 'I like you' instead of being shady or sneaky.
Its both sides fault...
Love the battle of sexes here hahaha |
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| Sly_Guy |
| quote: | Originally posted by Intangible
And my life would be so much easier if guys would straight out say 'I like you' instead of being shady or sneaky.
Its both sides fault...
Love the battle of sexes here hahaha |
haha, it totally is. Because it's always viewed as the first person that opens up leaves themselves vulnerable. And unless they really know that person well, no one wants to do that. |
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| Jennifer_P_ |
| quote: | Originally posted by Intangible
hahah I like you.
I once had a guy write me on facebook the next day saying I was the biggest bitch in the world because I wouldnt take a few minutes to stop dancing and talk to him. Ha. ... now thats exactly the kind of guy I want to date... :rolleyes:
Notice to guys: Don't bug the ladies while they are dancing. Also don't stare at them from the corner creeping them out... |
last thing I wanna do when I'm dancing is stop and chit chat. I don't go out to meet boys - I go out to dance and be silly.
Sometimes I feel bad - I don't think any one could call me a biatch but I'm not very open to advances when I'm in party-mode and have probably shut down some nice guys.
I had to laugh last week, I was at a club - kinda mix of patrons; it was not totally underground so you had the girls there to dance and the girls that go out to pose.... Some chicks were in the washroom talking about being on a "man hunt". Lol - I so can't even comprehend wasting my energy on that over enjoying the declicious beats.... Then again... I've been single for quite a while now... lol :rolleyes: |
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| Jennifer_P_ |
| quote: | Originally posted by Intangible
And my life would be so much easier if guys would straight out say 'I like you' instead of being shady or sneaky.
Its both sides fault...
Love the battle of sexes here hahaha |
mars vs venus.... cliche but true
kk - holy fack I gotta work! lol |
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| *~LiSa-LoO~* |
| quote: | Originally posted by Intangible
There is ALWAYS an exception to the rule. Not many.... but they are out there. |
This is what I've been saying all along. It's not so black and white. 100% of guys are not like that. GUYS IN THIS THREAD have even admitted to being the exception.
| quote: | Originally posted by Yohan
And girls who can't send clear 'I'm not interested' msg drives boys nuts.
Don't foot around the issue. If you're not interested in the dude, please send a clear message. Use smoke signals, write on your forehead, whatever. But nothing confuses a boy more than a girl who for whatever reason can't send clear signals. Esp for dudes who are socially clueless when it comes to reading women! (that's like, learning another language)
Be blatantly obvious if you have to. Tell the dude to off. But for the love of god don't send mixed signals. (being overly friendly can be read as still being interested in the dude) |
So what, when a girl meets a guy, they should automatically say "oh, by the way I'm not interested in you so don't bother trying?" |
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| FunkyCrew |
| quote: | Originally posted by ChemEnhanced
but it is a signal...whether she intends it to be or not. Its just the same as a bird showing off their colours to attrack a mate. |
then it's not her/his problem
I agree with Tara - being friendly/playful is one thing and being flirty is another
I've been consistenly accused of being "overly" friendly in the past and it pisses me off - people who know me well, know that it's the way I am, and I doubt I'm gonna go around changing my personality for clueless peeps |
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| RobSt*r |
| quote: | Originally posted by *~LiSa-LoO~*
This is what I've been saying all along. It's not so black and white. 100% of guys are not like that. GUYS IN THIS THREAD have even admitted to being the exception.
So what, when a girl meets a guy, they should automatically say "oh, by the way I'm not interested in you so don't bother trying?" |
No, but lets say in a club, you meet some one, you dance, your nice to him, then he wont stop hitting on you or what ever else his peainstincts tell him to do to get your undivided attention, this is the time to say beat it. |
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| FunkyCrew |
| quote: | Originally posted by RobSt*r
No, but lets say in a club, you meet some one, you dance, your nice to him, then he wont stop hitting on you or what ever else his peainstincts tell him to do to get your undivided attention, this is the time to say beat it. |
yeah but Yohan was clearly talking about a out-of-a-club situation.. |
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| RobSt*r |
| quote: | Originally posted by FunkyCrew
yeah but Yohan was clearly talking about a out-of-a-club situation.. |
This can apply to a lot of situations I feel. Judgment call is needed to apply the bitch card. |
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| FunkyCrew |
| quote: | Originally posted by RobSt*r
This can apply to a lot of situations I feel. Judgment call is needed to apply the bitch card. |
hehe saying beat it in a club is so easy though :clown: |
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| *~LiSa-LoO~* |
| quote: | Originally posted by RobSt*r
No, but lets say in a club, you meet some one, you dance, your nice to him, then he wont stop hitting on you or what ever else his peainstincts tell him to do to get your undivided attention, this is the time to say beat it. |
This, I would totally agree with. However, fortunately I don't have to worry about that too much b/c I hate dancing with guys at clubs. They get in my way. I like to do my thing. And whenever a guy asks if I want to dance, I flat out say "no thanks." Side note: I hate the ones that DON'T ask and just try to rub up against you. Especially when they don't take the hint when you clearly move away from them. I don't want to dance with you...find someone else to bump and grind with! |
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| Intangible |
It almost seems that when a guy is reading a girl he is looking for anything that MIGHT be a signal.
Yet when a girl reads a guy we discount everything until we are 100% something is a signal.
Therefore guys think they are getting a bunch of signals even when the girl is just being nice.
And girls think they arent getting any signals even though the guy really wants in her pants. |
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