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I'm in love with a friend and I don't know what to do (pg. 12)
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| ChemEnhanced |
| quote: | Originally posted by FunkyCrew
then it's not her/his problem
I agree with Tara - being friendly/playful is one thing and being flirty is another
I've been consistenly accused of being "overly" friendly in the past and it pisses me off - people who know me well, know that it's the way I am, and I doubt I'm gonna go around changing my personality for clueless peeps |
but you should be aware...that you may be sending mixed signals to men...whether you like it or not. The men, whether they like it or not, are going to take the signals as flirting....its their animal instinct...they cannot help but take it that way. Some will respond to the signals and others won't....but the signals are still picked up that way. |
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| FunkyCrew |
| quote: | Originally posted by Intangible
It almost seems that when a guy is reading a girl he is looking for anything that MIGHT be a signal.
Yet when a girl reads a guy we discount everything until we are 100% something is a signal.
Therefore guys think they are getting a bunch of signals even when the girl is just being nice.
And girls think they arent getting any signals even though the guy really wants in her pants. |
lol
the essence of life! |
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| *~LiSa-LoO~* |
| quote: | Originally posted by RobSt*r
This can apply to a lot of situations I feel. Judgment call is needed to apply the bitch card. |
As Tara said, there's a difference between flirty and having a friendly personality. Which I think you agree with since you said there has to be a judgment call. It seems that Yohan, and Scott both feel that there is no difference. So I guess when I see them I should act like an ice queen to make sure they take the hint :p |
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| FunkyCrew |
btw, when in doubt, I always go back to "He's just not that into you" movie or book :)
| quote: | Gigi: We are all programmed to believe that if a guy acts like a total jerk that means he likes you.
Gigi: Girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up. If a guy punches you he likes you. Never try to trim your own bangs and someday you will meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending. Every movie we see, Every story we're told implores us to wait for it, the third act twist, the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule. But sometimes we're so focused on finding our happy ending we don't learn how to read the signs. How to tell from the ones who want us and the ones who don't, the ones who will stay and the ones who will leave. And maybe a happy ending doesn't include a guy, maybe... it's you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself up for something better in the future. Maybe the happy ending is... just... moving on. Or maybe the happy ending is this, knowing after all the unreturned phone calls, broken-hearts, through the blunders and misread signals, through all the pain and embarrassment you never gave up hope. |
<3 Gigi! |
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| ChemEnhanced |
| quote: | Originally posted by Intangible
It almost seems that when a guy is reading a girl he is looking for anything that MIGHT be a signal.
Yet when a girl reads a guy we discount everything until we are 100% something is a signal.
Therefore guys think they are getting a bunch of signals even when the girl is just being nice.
And girls think they arent getting any signals even though the guy really wants in her pants. |
no...it is pure animal instinct and something neither side can control. Men look to spread their genetics and women look to find the perfect genetics.
Just by being nice you are sending signals. The lioness doesn't just hang with a lion to be nice to him....she is only going to be nice to him because she wants his genetics....we are no different |
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| Intangible |
| quote: | Originally posted by *~LiSa-LoO~*
This, I would totally agree with. However, fortunately I don't have to worry about that too much b/c I hate dancing with guys at clubs. They get in my way. I like to do my thing. And whenever a guy asks if I want to dance, I flat out say "no thanks." Side note: I hate the ones that DON'T ask and just try to rub up against you. Especially when they don't take the hint when you clearly move away from them. I don't want to dance with you...find someone else to bump and grind with! |
HAHAHA I could NEVER dance with a guy in a club - in the way where he touches me and goes up against me. Even if I am dating the guy it bothers me... I want my own space when I dance. Leave the lovin' for the bedroom.
I dance with my friends (guys and girls), but in a fun non touchy way. |
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| StereoPrincess |
| quote: | Originally posted by RobSt*r
This can apply to a lot of situations I feel. Judgment call is needed to apply the bitch card. |
no girl wants to go around being a bitch tho. it doesn't feel nice to break someone's spirit. so girls just foot around the issue and therefore no clear signals are sent. |
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| I_Am_Vince |
| quote: | Originally posted by Yohan
we're all stupid and most think with their penis instead of their brain ;)
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Especially that Yohan guy |
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| Yohan |
| quote: | Originally posted by *~LiSa-LoO~*
As Tara said, there's a difference between flirty and having a friendly personality. Which I think you agree with since you said there has to be a judgment call. It seems that Yohan, and Scott both feel that there is no difference. So I guess when I see them I should act like an ice queen to make sure they take the hint :p |
i think we know each other long enough ish to get the hint ;)
yes i know you're kidding lisa lol |
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| RobSt*r |
| quote: | Originally posted by *~LiSa-LoO~*
I hate the ones that DON'T ask and just try to rub up against you. Especially when they don't take the hint when you clearly move away from them. I don't want to dance with you...find someone else to bump and grind with! |
OK, Im going to teach all you TA's a word my friends and I have been using to describe MOST of the Toronto Club scene for a few years now. Its exactly what Lisa describes, and you all know them. Some of you may even be one.
Wait for it...................
SQUID!!!!!
They are called squid. They cant keep their hands to them selves, have no consideration for the fish in the ocean, and devour everything in sight. |
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| Intangible |
| quote: | Originally posted by ChemEnhanced
no...it is pure animal instinct and something neither side can control. Men look to spread their genetics and women look to find the perfect genetics.
Just by being nice you are sending signals. The lioness doesn't just hang with a lion to be nice to him....she is only going to be nice to him because she wants his genetics....we are no different |
You are so wrong... I dont even know what else to say. lol
I am friendly to guys just because I value their friendship.
We are never going to agree :p |
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| Intangible |
| quote: | Originally posted by RobSt*r
SQUID!!!!!
They are called squid. They cant keep their hands to them selves, have no consideration for the fish in the ocean, and devour everything in sight. |
LMAO!
Love it
and will use it |
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