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*: * So* Much * Random * Talking * Here :* ~Episode III (pg. 519)
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| Lews |
| Doesn't mean that people need to cheat on their partners. |
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| Sushipunk |
| quote: | Originally posted by nefardec
so im moving back to NYC on August 1 - Today I gave notice to my boss at the graphic design firm I work at, and he told me that they want me to continue working for them remotely in NYC (with salary and benefits) while we both transition for a few months AND they are giving me a raise to boot. Besides that, I'm free to work on my own schedule, do my own contract work, find new jobs, etc
So yeah, I'm psyched. Going to celebrate tonight. |
Nice one! |
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| MrJiveBoJingles |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lews
I don't understand why anyone cheats on the person they're with. |
Often because they want out of the relationship but are too timid to admit it.
Or they just want to bonk more people for the fun of it. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lews
I don't understand why anyone cheats on the person they're with. |
It depends quite a lot. I used to read quite a lot about it because it puzzled the hell out of me as well, and these are the three most common causes, as I recall it:
- Insecurity: The human psyche is far from being an invulnerable ironclad fortress in which doubt and despair are inpenetrable. If anything, it's the exact opposite. One of my fiancée's flatmates cheated on her boyfriend because "she didn't feel he could give her all she needed" and, instead of dumping him and moving on, he made his life hell, and slept with her boss (who was the quintessential provider).
- Sheer physical attraction: Attraction is not exactly a choice, though you can certainly say that what you do with this attraction certainly is something to be chosen. I believe this is what is happening right now with the latter cheater. She's very apparently very attractive to blokes in general, and since she moved to this new city, she's received a fair deal of attention. She happens to be in an abusdly-long-distance relationship, not unlike myself, and I know what it is like to have a bunch of attractive people surround you because you're suddenly the freshest piece of meat around. It's madrefunking awesome! I chose to turn them down because I'm a hopeless romantic, and though I'm an atheist, my concept of guilt may have played a role (I could've shagged two or three girls behind my girl's back and kept it a secret). Perhaps because this girl completely lacks a Christian background in which guilt is a fundamental trait (she comes from a shame society), perhaps she felt it was all good as long as no one else finds out. I remember this deeply pious former workmate told me with a straight face he cheated on his ex because "the girl was hot and he felt like it". He didn't feel a bit of shame/remorse about the whole thing.
- "The Rush": This could be related to the first point, but I decided to put it here because you may be in a stable relationship, with no doubts regarding whom you want to spend the rest of your days with, but you still appreciate the rush you get in early relationships (and doing something forbidden). My dad actually wanted me to "enjoy life and meat as many girls as I could before I settled down", the typo being intended, because this would help me appreciate something I never really missed/needed.
There you go :p |
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| Halcyon+On+On |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lews
Doesn't mean that people need to cheat on their partners. |
Why doesn't it? Mammal impulse often supersedes any social imperative we hold to be sacred and hurtful. The experience of seeding is foremost, often at the disregard of paltry social contract the callow take for granted. |
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| Joss Weatherby |
If people didn't cheat, think about all the drama we would lose.
Seriously, I mean that. |
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| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by Joss Weatherby
If people didn't cheat, think about all the drama we would lose.
Seriously, I mean that. |
I know. You're also waiting eagerly for a nuclear holocaust :p
But we like you the way you are, don't worry. |
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| Palladium |
bitches will be bitches
players will be players |
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| Lira |
And bitches will be played by the players they're bitching!
That's my 10 word long hip hop endeavour: Thank you all very much. |
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| enydo |
| quote: | Originally posted by nefardec
so im moving back to NYC on August 1 - Today I gave notice to my boss at the graphic design firm I work at, and he told me that they want me to continue working for them remotely in NYC (with salary and benefits) while we both transition for a few months AND they are giving me a raise to boot. Besides that, I'm free to work on my own schedule, do my own contract work, find new jobs, etc
So yeah, I'm psyched. Going to celebrate tonight. |
score man. That is my dream position for right when I get out of school in the spring. Congrats. |
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| Lews |
| quote: | Originally posted by Lira
[*]"The Rush": This could be related to the first point, but I decided to put it here because you may be in a stable relationship, with no doubts regarding whom you want to spend the rest of your days with, but you still appreciate the rush you get in early relationships (and doing something forbidden). My dad actually wanted me to "enjoy life and meat as many girls as I could before I settled down", the typo being intended, because this would help me appreciate something I never really missed/needed.
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There you go :p |
I'm in a very stable and amazing relationship. Neither I nor my girlfriend would ever cheat on each other and I just can't understand why anyone would. I've got a problem with seeing things from other people's perspectives, I guess. I can't see why I would ever want to hurt her, so I can't see why anyone else would want to hurt someone that they cared about or loved. It just doesn't click in my head at all.
Lira, maybe you and I are weird. But I prefer being a nice guy than being a dick like most the guys I see around me.
LOL RANDOM LEWS RANT
Adam, nice ing catch on the job man. Congratulations :) |
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