Originally posted by Ang ' ela_ie
Anyone have any experience? An Indian girl I used to know told me that theyd eventually get over it. Im not so sure.
Really up to him to talk the parents around to it, Indian boys are kind of like Italian ones, they stick around the family house like a limpet taking all kinds of crap from the parents until they do actually get married.
Probably not much more you can do except to ride his ass to get something sorted.
Frenchie
I've never dated an Indian guy, obviously, but from what I have seen with friends and what I've heard from others, you're in for a toughy. Main things is to work yuor way into meeting them, and once you're at the point of face to face don't try and work "yourself on to them" don't MAKE them like you just be yourself and let them see how you and this guy interact with one another. Their son is their main priority and possession, screwing things up for him will only lead them to hate you, possibly more than they would now without even knowing you. You can ask to spend one on one time with his mom just to ease her up about you, but very subtly.
I've seen a lot fo Indian parents use the " you're only marrying an indian women/man" as a scare tactic to scare not only their kid but the one they want to date who isn't indian.
That's why strict cultures stick to their own kind, too much mess and hoopla to deal with with cultures clash.
good luck :D:D
Ang ' ela_ie
Thanks, girls. :)
MeLLyMeL
I've only known of one situation like that but it was the indian girl and my boyfriends best friend.
they didn't work out. he was like the 'study buddy' to the parents
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Frenchie
If you have to hide, creep around, lie about the relationship you won't be able to have a healthy one and a great one to a full extent. It'll feel like having an affair except instead of hiding it from another lover you're hiding it from the parents.
Ang ' ela_ie
Yeah, it kind of makes me sad. :(
LeopoldStotch
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Originally posted by dj tek
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i take that, and raise this
:D
Lilith
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Originally posted by Ang ' ela_ie
Yeah, it kind of makes me sad. :(
Sort something out, no point being in a relationship if you're going to be miserable or feel like an outsider there to the other half's family.
LeopoldStotch
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Originally posted by Ang ' ela_ie
Okay guys. I need you to share some experience you may have had.
I really like this Indian guy that Im friends with, and we're probably going to end up dating. Im a little concerned about his parents, though. Strict Indian... wants him to marry Indian... and Im pretty sure he doesnt tell them about any of the white girls he dates.
Its really hard for me to think that I could be dating someone seriously and hed never tell his parents about me. His last girlfriend ran into them at the mall one day when they were shopping together and she said they were downright COLD to her.
Anyone have any experience? An Indian girl I used to know told me that theyd eventually get over it. Im not so sure.
good luck. i am sure the guy likes to hang with you. They usually say(75%) of the time the kids are a reflection of the parents, so if the Indian guy is cool hanging with you, then I am sure his parents will have a comfortable time with you.
:)
verndogs
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Originally posted by Ang ' ela_ie
Okay guys. I need you to share some experience you may have had.
I really like this Indian guy that Im friends with, and we're probably going to end up dating. Im a little concerned about his parents, though. Strict Indian... wants him to marry Indian... and Im pretty sure he doesnt tell them about any of the white girls he dates.
Its really hard for me to think that I could be dating someone seriously and hed never tell his parents about me. His last girlfriend ran into them at the mall one day when they were shopping together and she said they were downright COLD to her.
Anyone have any experience? An Indian girl I used to know told me that theyd eventually get over it. Im not so sure.
one of my really good indian friends from college has been dating her chinese boyfriend since they met in 1999. Almost 8 years later, her parents still vehemently don't approve of her dating a non indian guy and will break ties with her in an instant when they eventually marry. she doesn't care. she loves him more than her parents
if they're old school indians, they'll never get over it :(
Ang ' ela_ie
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Originally posted by verndogs
if they're old school indians, they'll never get over it :(
Ugh... I know. Its awful because this guy is really great, and really great for me. I dont want to have it come to any of that. I like parents! I want them to like me.
verndogs
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Originally posted by Ang ' ela_ie
Ugh... I know. Its awful because this guy is really great, and really great for me. I dont want to have it come to any of that. I like parents! I want them to like me.
Why not date? Sure that will be a problem down the line, but you can deal with it later