| Lira |
| quote: | Originally posted by nchs09
Lira we need more details... |
Sure, such as?
If you're wondering why we're about to break up:
Although we like one another very much, and have both great communication skills, we're way too different in many aspects. I'm extremely individualistic, she'd rather go with the crowd; I'm theoretical, she's pragmatic; I'm outgoing, she's shy; I'm always trying to see things on the bright side, and she's always trying to fix everything; I'm stable, she's insecure; I embrace the different, she criticises whatever isn't the standard for her... and, because I'm so diametrically opposed to what she's used to, she's always complaining about my behaviour, whereas I seek to accept her as she is. But, it's been quite hard for me to deal with this because she also sees me as being better than she deserves, and try thus to lose me so she doesn't have to cope with the fear of, well, losing me =/
In the last couple of months, she asked me to break up with her 3 times, and most of these requests came out of the blue. This happened quite frequently a couple of years ago, when I almost cheated on her (but then realised I had to sort my problems with her instead of running away). However, after putting so much effort in the relationship, it gets annoying to know she's willing to throw it all away just because she's afraid it might not work... so I might as well just walk away anyway.
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
truth. all you can hope for is that both parties involved will handle it maturely and be able to go their separate ways without freaking out or acting like a child. granted it's never easy, but some people make it way more difficult than it needs to be.
best of luck to you, Lira. if it makes you feel any more hopeful, i can tell you that i am still really good friends with a guy that i dated for 5 years. it took some time to get to that point, but when you genuinely care for someone who has been part of your life for so long, you tend to overlook the small/stupid things that happened in the past, and you just appreciate the relationship for what it was and what you both learned from it. |
Thanks for sharing, I hope we can follow your steps :) |
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