| Omega_M |
| quote: | Originally posted by Clovis
I can appreciate many other cultural sensitivities, the problem here is there is nothing to appreciate. The only reason those people think this way is because that's how it has always been, that's how they were raised and now they firmly believe that that is how things should remain, despite the advances we have made over the last century in cultural developpment and equality in civilised societies. |
what are the so called cultural developments and where is the equality in civilized society that you talk about ? It's only on paper and perhaps enforced by the law. But scratch the surface and people are just the same everywhere. Everybody clings to his own belief system resolutely. You have the same problems in America or India or Middle East or China or Japan or Brazil or anywhere else in the world. Social conditioning of 1000s of years cannot be erased within 50 years.
| quote: | | Where did I say that the american way of life is better? It has nothing to do with American vs. Indian ways of life, it has to do with repression vs. freedom, respecting human dignity vs. extinguishing it. It's funny that here are people discriminating blatantly on race and yet I'm the one being accused of not atuning myself to the sensibilities of others :haha: There is alot that is wrong in America as well. These types of things do happen in caucasian families too (white girl marries a latino), and are just as wrong. |
Again, what you are talk about are qualities and rights of individuals. In the indian "conservative" system, individuals place equal importance to the well being of their blood relations. People are willing to make compromises for the sake of a better quality of life for the entire group. Indian families include their parents, americans don't. This is a fundamental difference bewteen the two cultures.
| quote: | | Yes, I am very selfish, but the parents who wont let their child fall in love with someone because of RACE aren't. These ideas need to be excluded from modern society and pushed to the fringe. They need to be subject to de-emphasis and removed from our ways of thinking about family. For it to be more important that offspring marry into the same race and someone deemed acceptable by the people who are not getting married is just absolutely wrong and there is no rational basis for believing in it. It causes harm to families, causes poor relationships, poor parenting resulting from that, and stifles cultural diversity. |
You place individual freedom over everything else and you are asking the parents to respect it. But other people don't see things this way. They give more importance to family and the wellbeing of their parents and see it necessary that the person whom they will marry adds to the quality of life of everybody and not just him/her. These are not archaic ideas. They are just different from what you believe. |
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